Dealing With Things

While working with my client I have learned that we all deal with the trauma in life differently. Sometimes we hold on to things for years and the pain that happened at one point in our lives continues to hurt us in the future. We often let our pains fester and try to push them aside and not deal with them. I have learned while working with my client that I have simply pushed my pains aside and not dealt with them properly. While it is hard to deal with them when something happens, it is even harder to deal with the pain and heartache years down the line.

God puts trials and tribulations in our lives for a reason. Sometimes we learn from them other times we are able to use that hurt to help someone else. It is hard to deal with the pain, heartache and other feelings associated with different trials on our own, which is why we have a merciful God. He is always there when we need him. I think too often we feel like Jeremiah did. In Jeremiah 15:18 he says "Why is my pain perpetual and my wound incurable, which refuses to be healed? Will you surely be to me like an unreliable stream as waters that fail?" We allow our pains be perpetual sometimes, other times while we deal with it it still seems to come up and overcome our efforts. That is when we need to rely on God the most. We need to turn to him and as Him for help and strength. God is there to lift us up when our trials and tribulations have us down; He is there when things seem to be too much.

Too often things get to be too much for us and we need the help of therapists and psychologists. I admit I am seeing one to help me through my heartache and there is nothing wrong with it. While he is helping through it, he cannot give me the spiritual help that I need and can only get from someone like my pastor. Sometimes we need to do things that changes aspects of our lives to help us deal with things in life. Prayer is important and I know I need more of it in my life. God is there to help us, help me, deal with the heartache that I have been holding on to. Now I am ready to let it go, I want to get rid of the pain that I feel daily and replace it with joy that only God can give.

Are you ready to let it go and give it to God?

Thoughts

Too often when something bad happens our minds go to the worst possible thing that could happen. It's just human nature. We always expect the worst and really don't see the good that could be there. When doctors explain risks of an operation it seems like all we can focus on are the risks. I know I have done that not only when I had cancer, but through Todd's operation. Many times we sit there and think "what did I do wrong" or that God is mad at us.

In the story of Job, Job's wife tells Job to just lay down and die, while his friends tell him that he must have sinned really bad and made God really mad at him for him to have lost his family and have an illness. When in reality Job did nothing wrong and many times when we are going through our hardships we didn't do anything to make God mad at us or that we deserve the hardships while others deserve happiness. Everyone has to struggle at some point in their lives. It's a matter of how we deal with the hardships that make a difference.

Too often people turn away from God, or blame God for their hardships. We need to praise God, and lean on him for strength to make it through the trials and tribulations. God is there to carry us through, the poem Footprints in the sand tells us that God is there carrying us through the hardships even if we don't feel him there. We need to be in prayer, reading the word, and fellowship with other Christians. What other hope do we have other than our faith?