Way Of Hope
Jun 14, 2012
Backpack
When I actually think back to when most of my insecurities began (despite the daddy issues I also have) I come back to this. He was my first "boyfriend" so to speak if you can really call him that because we only went out when he wanted to, when it was convenient for him. I wasn't good enough for anything else other than a girl that was there when he needed one. I didn't see it at the time and I don't know why I didn't . Maybe I didn't want to think that he wasn't all that into me, that he was just using me for whatever weird purpose.
Jun 12, 2012
The Zahir
There are things in life that we become obsessed with and those things overrule our lives. I know for my self there are things that rule my life even though they happened in the past. Things I wish I could get out of my mind and out of my life. I wonder if as Coelho said in his book if I tell my stories enough and get them out of my system, my life then love would flow through better and easier. I would understand love and life in a different facet than I already do because I am still holding onto those pains and stories of the past regardless of whether the stories are good or bad. How can I move forward if I am still holding on to those things? How if y past faults and insecurities are still ruling my life?
I think I am going to attempt to tell my story and open the door for the energy of love to flow and for me to understand love on a different level. I want to see if Coelho is correct and I can get rid of the Zahir in my life and be able to focus my energy and properly love Tom without my past coming back to haunt me and mess with my mind.
May 31, 2012
Sun Swim
May 23, 2012
Home
While I am here on the island surrounded by water, I feel as if I am where I need to be, or at least close. I know I am happiest when I am near water, and sadly the three rivers aren't cutting it for me, I need something more. Maybe that was why I was willing to move to California for Jacob even though I knew I wouldn't be happy, or to Myrtle Beach with Nate. Maybe those desires have lead up to this point of me wanting something more from where I live, some where that I would be at my happiest and not just going through the motions of daily life. Moving to a different city is a tough decision let alone moving to a different state. It is a decision that would not only affect me, but also Tom. One that should not be taken lightly or make without thinking it through. It is something that could change our lives forever, with no going back.
Life here on the island is more simplistic in numerous different ways, and I wonder if it would be the same if we lived in Wilmington, if not would we be able to transfer the simplicity to life in the city, wherever that city may be. We will see what time will tell. But I am loving life right now.
May 16, 2012
Love Is Patient
Saying something negative especially out of anger diminishes love and stifles it,it doesn't allow love to grow in a natural way. The Bible says "he who is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who is quick tempered exalts folly" Proverbs 14:29. Today's dare is based on Love is Patient, when we are patient we are slow to anger and therefore slow to say something negative; something we would regret. When we quick to anger in a situation we say things we don't even think about, things we end up regretting later. Being patient and slow to anger show mercy and love. We aren't judging or condemning. We need to remember that no one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes; even our spouses. Being patients helps us understand that and be able to forgive them of their faults. It allows our spouses to be human and make amends. Being patient during the small things allow patience during the hard times and bring us closer together rather than pulling us apart.
The author of the "Love Dare" states that patience is "a choice to control your emotions rather than allowing your emotions to control you, and shows discretion instead of returning evil for evil." Patience is a choice to control our emotions which in turn allows us to control what is coming out of our mouths. Today I am making a conscientious choice to think about the words that I say to Tom. Are the positive or negative? Am I allowing my emotions to control me, and how I handle things or do I have control over my emotions? Saying something negative takes the understanding and affection out of a loving and patient relationship. I know it will be a challenge to not say anything negative and to allow patience to rule instead of anger, but I am willing to work on it and become a better loving person because of it.
Apr 9, 2012
Something More
I stated before that I really wanted to move down to the island. Spend my days as a beach mama because there is a sense if relaxation and simpliciry, whereas in the city its all chaos and stress. I can see why my cousin just picks up and spends a few days in Myrtle Beach, though I prefer OBX.
I was thinking and talking to Tom earlier today, I think my desire to move here is partly that I dont want to live in Pittsburgh, possi.cbly not even Pennsylvania. Ive never really wanted to stay in there. The tri-village on Hatteras Island has been the first place outside of Pennsylvania that I actually could see myself living and raising a family.
A downfall to that though is the job market is non existant in the winter months, so what would we do for a job. Im going to begin saving money and doing what I can to earn a few extra dollars to save. Tom mentioned a few other pllaces we could look at like Wilmington, Nc which is close enough to the island. We shall see what the future holds.
Apr 6, 2012
Thinking
The past week or so I have been doing a lot of thinking about my future in various forms. Mainly though it has been where I will spend the rest of my life. Do I really want to stay in Pittsburgh, or is somewhere else calling my name. I have been considering living on the island.
There are a lot of factors that go into the decision to move here or stay in Pittsburgh. Right now all Pittsburgh has that is drawing me is my friends and family. I know I am more stressed out in the city, there is a simpler way if life down on the island, more relaxed and as I said simplified. Sure there arw concerns like the hurricanes. But it alnost becomes a way if life.
I know tom and I are both happier. Once we got here for the weekend the way we look at each is different, there is more love. We actually fell asleep cuddling last night. I wonder if living here would not only change our lives but our relationship. The more I think of it, the more I want to move here permanently. Ive been told it would easy for me to find a good job, possibly even as special ed teacher.
Im going to look into jobs around here just at the possibilities. And of course discuss with Tom, but we shall see.